Money, Confidence and Intimacy on Sugar Dating Apps

Since the inception of Brilic dating app in 2018, a growing number of members have found sugar daddies and cougars on Brilic dating app, so we’ve decided to publish an article about sugar dating apps and their dynamics . If you are a sugar baby, a sugar daddy, a sugar momma or a toy boy, you will learn a ton from this post.

• Why certainsugar babies have difficulty getting a sugar daddy: Lack of confidence and self-esteem is the main reason why a lot of hot women fail to get rich men. There is a gap between the majority of sugar babies and rich sugar daddies – different experiences in life. For instance, some sugar babies don’t even know there are luxurious spa centers that allow people to stay there for weeks, meaning lack of experience leads to lack of awareness and this can turn some sugar daddies off. Yes, there are certain things that you can only know if you can afford to enjoy those experiences. Do you know that in the first-class cabin of certain airlines, you can have a shower there? Do you know that at certain high-end makeup counter, you can eat biscuits and drink coffee? Do you know that when you go shopping for high-end jewelry, you can get free champagne? These experiences can only become something that you know after you’ve got the money to enjoy them in the first place. Otherwise, this kind of things are not in your reality . However, when you are worried about your lack of sophistication, I’d like to let you know that there are many ways to deal with it and you’ll learn how to boost your confidence and self-esteem later.

• A 35-year-old sugar baby’s confession – Jennifer is a member of a sugar daddy dating app (Jennifer’s diary):

When I was 23 years old, I was still a virgin. Actually, I was concerned at that time because most of my friends were not virgins anymore and I never had a real relationship yet. I graduated from university when I was 21 years old and just started my career as a lecturer. I knew many of my students were not virgins but I was still a virgin, so I was very worried. Therefore, I joined a popular dating site (at that time we didn’t even have smart phones, let alone top dating apps). A few weeks later, a rich guy sent me a message, so I went to his city to see him. That night he bought me dinner and had a walk with me in his city. Then he said, “Let’s go back and rest.” I was too naïve to understand what he was actually saying, so I grabbed a cab and went to his hotel room. 

As I was typing something on his laptop, he was grabbing my breasts. I told him not to do it, so he said, “You never had a relationship before?” Then he undressed me and put me in his bed. However, it was very difficult to penetrate me because I was a virgin. So, that night, although he tried very hard and I was in pain, he gave it up and went to another room to sleep (he wanted to sleep better, so he preferred to sleep alone). Of course, before he left for a different room, we had a shower at the same time and he asked me to wash his Johnson. After he left for another room, I went to the toilet and realized that my hymen was broken when I was sitt ing on the toilet and taking a shit. After that, my blood was on the carpet because the hymen was definitely broken. The next day, I went to the city center to buy a Dior eyeliner in order to make myself feel good, this wealthy guy spoke to me on the phone, “You’ve left?!” He sounded a bit disappointed – now when I looked back, I think he didn’t get laid very often, so he was needy. 

But actually, I decided to return back to that hotel room because I had low self-esteem and didn’t think I was lovable. More importantly, I was worried that maybe I couldn’t have normal intercourse due to the difficulty that happened the night before – yes, that’s how low my self-esteem was at that point in my life. So, I went back to that hotel room and he tried to penetrate me again. This time, it was successful. The intercourse was done. I wasn’t a virgin anymore. I felt that I just achieved something because losing my virginity was like a big achievement in my reality. Those years, I always felt like a failure or a loser because I was a virgin. At last, my hymen was broken and I became a free woman that could have normal sexual intercourse. That millionaire guy also said to me, “You’ve never stayed at a hotel before? You even brought your own towel! You can’t use the card to open the hotel door! You don’t know anything apart from what you’ve learned at university!” At that moment, I knew that there was a gap between me and that rich guy’s reality because I didn’t have any rich experience in life yet, whereas he was a real estate investor. Having said that, he turned out to be a scammer who asked for my money. I gave him some money due to my lack of confidence – I thought I could invest in a relationship and make him love me. 

But in the end, I realized that he was just a scammer rather than a sugar daddy. It was one of the biggest lessons in my life. Inever told my family about it (only my close friends, my life coach and a psychologist know it), but I think in some ways, it was a positive experience because I started to reevaluate my life and improve myself after that episode. People say that he is a rapist who exploited me physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. I think that’s a correct statement, but I also believe that without that challenge in life, I definitely wouldn’t become who I am today – a confident, sophisticated and worldly woman who knows what she wants and how to get it: I’m having success on sugar dating apps now. My life coach literally said, “When that rape happened, he was exhausted, frustrated and upset. After that incident happened, you've become enlightened, knowledgeable and ambitious. So, you should be grateful for what happened.”

• How to boost your self-esteem and confidence before dating a sugar daddy: There are several ways to boost your confidence and self-esteem quickly. Firstly, you can go to a high-end boutique and try on clothing that cost at least $2000 (e.g. Dior and Chanel). Then you look at yourself in the mirror and let the amazing feeling sink in. Secondly, you go to Tiffany & Co. and try on the most expensive diamond necklace. Then you look at yourself in the mirror and really drink in your beauty and radiance . Lastly, you can buy a Tom Ford lipstick and wear it every day (you probably can’t afford luxury clothing and jewelry, but you can afford luxury makeup). When you immerse yourself in luxury, you’ll find that you feel more comfortable when you interact with rich men and cougars on sugar dating apps.